Marisa Leigh Valente 10/21/25 Marisa Leigh Valente 10/21/25

Elders

A meditation on the meaning and value of elderhood as a demographic stage, as well as a quality of presence, wisdom, humility, and relational grounding that transcends age. These are the emotional and spiritual anchors for the piece; a premise for deepening wise leadership.

Many of you know that I have living grandparents, Irish-descended lifetime citizens of New York City, who for reasons both chance and choice never entered the space of computers, smartphones or the internet. Eileen and Tom, the pitch of whose life, the jewel of their presence, love for one another and devotion to family, city and culture, has quenched in me, all my life, something for which I have no name. Through them I have never known thirst.

Mary Oliver wrote of the phrase “inherited responsibility” in Winter Hours - spoken by Gloria Vanderbilt Whitney’s granddaughter in a speech she attended, which upon hearing, Mary ‘slipped this phrase from the air and put it in her own pocket!’.

For my grandparents example, I feel similar “responsibility”. We who have inherited not measurable wealth but, (we all do who notice), the immeasurable fund of tendernesses, traditions, and feelings which we wish to pay forward bear the great gift of sewing splendor into the world. The great ones (for me, feelings, but you no doubt have your own impulse of the important) have shown me the praise inside a glance, how to think (less), and why to exist (mostly only) to care for the good.

From my grandparents’ example I hope to be inseparable, and forever very, very grateful. I go nowhere and arrive nowhere without them. With them I live my life, enter the event, pray the prayer, and keep the hour as it slips away. I do not accomplish this by myself, by worried effort, but with this innumerable, fortifying company; bright and everlasting stars in the heaven of my heart.

At the threshold of their nonagenarian mantle, they are, individually and together translucent, absolute mass.

It is this quality of presence I hope shall anchor this piece of writing as it anchors all the roots of my life. This is written in its honor.

Whenever a mind is simple, and receives a divine wisdom, old things pass away, —means, teachers, texts, temples fall; it lives now, and absorbs past and future into present hour. All things are made sacred by relation to it, —one as much as another. All things are dissolved to their center by their cause, and, in the universal miracle, petty and particular miracles, disappear. If, therefore a man claims to know and speak of God, and carries you backward to the phraseology of some old moldered nation in another country, in another world, believe him not. Is the acorn better than the oak which is its fullness and completion?

This was Ralph Waldo Emerson in his essay, Self Reliance. His prolific sanity has held me steady to truth for a long time now. I return to him for anchor and orientation almost every day. Sharing his wisdom, another elder of this piece, guides us as the accrual of a mountain peak. I sprinkle him throughout in hope of imbuing our climb with the wonder of a high place.

I. Stabilization Through Exquisite Presence

Imagine our world returns to sacred rhythm and relational primacy, rather simply?

We know how. We have done this before, and for a long, long time. The why is intrinsic in our recognition of ease, goodness and its familiarity that is far truer than the world we know today. We have only for a moment forgotten. And, we are already remembering.

Our economies are returned to increase on elegance and service to place, and to one another.

Success means unity of personal character. The results look like community beauty, shared and celebrated as both cause and effect.

Relational literacy and presence replaces medicine and therapy. This is the choreography of unity, and it is practiced on the dance floor of life which looks like morning walks with kin and Saturday evening socials where the band plays and a wooden square at the center of the grass beckons you to wiggle and twirl, because this is where you belong.

Mutual recognition and interdependence upon one another’s gifts obviates the impulse for wealth accumulation or any stockpiling at all. Just as it does now, and always has, we recognize with bright lights the reality that the world runs on anonymous acts of generosity, goodwill, attraction and know-how.

A man on a bench, at any age, and for good reason, is recognized for reading The Treasure Seekers to a group of children. The heresy of what we used to call a TED Talk is as alien as a UFO.

Is this old or new? The oak or the acorn?

II. Recalling Elderhood

“Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement.” -J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

In this glistening consonant line, Gandalf begins to assist Frodo’s crucial embodiment of mercy, seen as all who play hold a role for fate’s great end.

Elderhood as I have experienced it through my grandparents, and the many elders who have befriended me in my adopted home on Maui, seems to bear the same trademark: it is the magic of metabolized life experience which is embodied and shared generously through storytelling and perfected presence. All of them are merciful people as they have been beneficiaries of its grace.

These high expressions seem universally to bear also these trademarks:

· transmission (just being near them has an “effect”)

· humility,

· humor,

· serenity,
and

· a strong impulse to assist with a marked absence of control (much like a midwife, but unlike an obstetrician).

Noticeably absent from my grandparents and most of the Hawaiian elder community, are these lower expressions which persist in my professional life:

· being remembered means more than just remembering

· control is not imbued with meaning

· there is moralistic or self-referential authority at the expense of cultural or community renewal

· the amassing of power, status and wealth occurs to the exclusion of others, especially the weak and the young

· there is refusal (fear) of moving beyond former identities into deeper selfhood and service

My sense is that if we can learn, really learn, to honor the higher qualities, and build into our systems subversions to our impulse of the lower, we’ll naturally reveal the true technology of human life: that which permits the stabilization of the old new world we’d all rather live in and are beginning to remember.

III. Incorruptibility

Momentarily, we live in an age where we equate experience, or worse - success, with only algorithmically acceptable content.

This means that “successful” elders now become speakers or brands rather than stabilizing presences. These “successful” modern elders are not bad people - but they are coaxed to follow bad rules. The rules themselves deny true eldership because they deny presence.

This means we live in a time without elders. And a culture without elders becomes a culture without time.

So bereft do we feel without this quality, remaining perpetually adolescent and future-obsessed without sharing generously and folding in articles of the past, we corrupt our roots.

Elderhood cannot exist under the pressure of performance. It must be a consciousness act - an ability chiefly to hold the arc of memory with honor, spaciousness, and uncontrived choice.

Such an arc holds what was, and what may still be, what must be buried, what can born anew, and implicit instruction for how to raise novelty in the dignity of the gifts it bears, while pressing firmly into its character its irresistible duty to the greater good.

“We carry in memory important anecdotes, and have lost all clue to the author from whom we had them. We have a heroic speech from Rome or Greece, but cannot fix it on the man who said it. We have an admirable line worthy of Horace, ever and anon resounding in our mind’s ear, but have searched all probable and improbable books for it in vain. We consult the reading men: but, strangely enough, they who know everything know not this. But especially we have a certain insulated thought, which haunts us, but remains insulated and barren. Well, there is nothing for all this but patience and time. Time, yes, that is the finder, the unweariable explorer, not subject to causalities, omniscient at last.”

This was Mr. Emerson in an essay on Old Age written in 1862.

IV: Case Study: Elders as Brands & Elders as Bridges

Coach K and the Slip of Elderhood

I am the grateful member of numerous professional alumni associations. One such alumni association, newly born, a few weeks ago announced its first marquee community event: a speaker. Michael William Krzyzewski, affectionately and well-known as “Coach K” of the celebrated Duke Blue Devils.

At his best, Coach K embodies elderhood through his marked presence, threads woven through long years in the colors of precision and skill. His coaching of the 2008 US Olympic “Redeem Team” displayed him brilliantly supersede the tradition of authoritarian control into a flight of elegant cohesion-by-trust. He created of this team a vessel. A vessel sturdy enough to cull and contain all the star power that included even Kobe and LeBron, never obscuring their individual radiance but launching them collectively to orbit a greater and more powerful whole and luminous space.

In this context, Coach K is a magical producer of music. His players often speak of his eyes - steady, directed and filled to the brim with belief. This kind of embodiment, particularly in one’s gaze, is how a person with deep embodiment and cultivated intention holds the balance of a whole room: they conduct it in the key of reverence.

Coach K as Diagnostic

But, Coach K in all his well-woven glory still casts a wide shadow, as too many notable elders of our past have been condemned to do.

This shadow is not their own but an outline of an institutional culture which rewards legacy (being remembered) more than lineage (remembering). Once an elder’s success is measured by trophies, book deals and speaking fees, the currency of their wisdom is diluted by its very measurability. He is denied his presence as bridge and forced to dance on a stage as brand.

Being a good elder, he does as he is asked. Coach K, and elders like him, are not un-wise. But these elders are without a container through which their wisdom may breathe with grace back into life.

The asymmetry of a brand relative to a bridge is severe. Fortunately, its presence is a magic all its own - he stands as the mortar of identification. When an elder’s presence loses the quality of kinship for those in their reach, what occurs is extraction at the glamorous Capote-esque masquerade ball of inspiration for hire. Here time stands frozen, unrenewed, casting a dim but usable light.

Aspirational Worship ≠ Community Cultivation

The nature of glamour is distraction. In the context of magic, its etymology of Norse origin refers to scholarship of the occult. Glamour is a spell, not generous, which creates an illusion, altering how something or someone is perceived by others. ‘Sage on a Stage’ phenomena are the psychological equivalent of touching the hem of Madonna’s dress at a concert expecting some of the magic to rub off. Such illusions, at scale, produce intellects estranged from their own inherent capabilities. These frozen, cleft minds learn to rent power from avatars of perceived status divorcing themselves by rote from a Gandalf-sized sphere of fate.

This sentiment was wrapped in care and expressed to the leaders of my alumni association and met with polite disregard. It is a challenging task indeed for which to take collective responsibility, because we thirst so. And for this great thirst, in spite of its honor, we have learned shame.

Because the soul is progressive, it never quite repeats itself, but in every act attempts the production of a new and fairer whole. This appears in works both of the useful and the fine arts, if we employ the popular distinction of works according to their aim either at use or beauty. Thus in our fine arts, not imitation but creation is the aim. In landscapes the painter should give the suggestion of a fairer creation that we know. The details, the prose of nature he should omit and give us only the spirit and splendor.

This is our broad, steadying Emerson speaking to us through a piece simply entitled Art honoring pure and infinite wholeness.

Gandalf and The Elder as Bridge Through Time

The antidote to shame, many of us are remembering, is belonging. Another name, wholeness.

One of the great literary gifts of my year has been the gift of entry into the world of J.R.R. Tolkien. His is an immense world of complexity, anchored in encompassing meaning and interspecies belonging.

Tolkien gifted us one of the most beloved elder characters in literary memory: Gandalf. And he is beloved to me.

Gandalf does not have best and worst expressions, of course. He is a character of fantasy fiction, thus perfected.

But in his perfection, he serves the great duty of illustration. For me, (what is he to you, gentle reader?) he illustrates possibility. Gandalf’s essence, for me, is revelation. He arrives as the plot thickens and all of his power and magic rest in spare and repeated gestures:

· He refuses glory by virtue of existing before the fall of man, betwixt the elves and the dwarves, as friend to hobbits, before the dawn of veneration.

· He inspires through humility, with his staff, which faithfully sustains his vulnerability, which tunes. Placidly.

· His presence is a portal as his company folds time into potential with and through him body and soul.

When Gandalf the Gray falls in Moria and later returns in Fangorn Forest as the White, he embodies the great alchemy of elderhood: his willingness to die into a more capacious self for the purpose of continuance.

With such mythic literacy gifted to us by another great elder, Tolkien himself, we are sunk into our ancient memories of liberation. We remember Gandalf even more than we love him. Gandalf does not retire, he resurrects. His was an act of generosity and choice to the mission.

Gandalf’s power is the child of epochs of apprenticeship to uncertainty, loss, and the intelligence of time itself. Gandalf walks as and beside the vulnerable, in trust. Gandalf entrusts the fate of all Middle Earth to three small, frightened beings who do not yet know their power, whose odds are stacked against, but are stewarded with no less reverence and indispensable commitment. The task is the greater.

“When virtue is in presence, all subordinate powers sleep”.

This is Mr. Emerson in his essay, Experience, with a lightning bolt which has served me equally as engine and candle in moments of darkness and light.

A Picture of Resurrection: Coach K Spans to Gandalf

Where Coach K’s legacy is relegated a pink slip of performance, whose memory is curated within a closed loop of elite selection, sponsor money accompanied by two beggars named metric and fee, Gandalf the everlasting was made so inseparable from nothing other than his service to life.

In a stroke of redemption from the lower to the higher, here is a prayer:

May Coach K be passed through the crucibles of dominance, strategy, and the refinement of technique in simulated spaces. May his experience be resurrected whole, into a field of rough proximity, to the relief of only two chores: awakening the latent possibility of the small weak, and a chosen, artful disappearance once this small thing shines; ovation be that being only.

May the rules, and clocks, and contracts perish into consequences of shadow with the endurance of hope shined through prolonged and unimaginable darkness. May the translucence of presence be generated through bearing alone; bent toward wholeness through fellowship.

May the glory of elderhood be his resurrection from initiate to initiator.

As elder, now all of him whole, be moved with honor by his people from stage to road, or his own dining table with the leaves added. May his walks and meals be taken in reverence to vulnerability, his own and ours together, both the possibility and necessity they command exalted.

We acknowledge solemnly in grace that wisdom cannot be performed by any of us; its only path is through us, renewed, that it be delivered back to itself. Its truer name is life.

“If we look into the eyes of the youngest person we sometimes discover that here is one who knows already what you would go about with much pains to teach him; there is that in him which is the ancestor of all around him: which fact the Indian Vedas express when they say, “He that can discriminate is the father of his father.” And in our old British legends of Arthur and the Round Table, his friend and counsellor, Merlin the Wise, is a babe found exposed in a basket by the river-side, and, though an infant of only a few days, speaks articulately to those who discover him, tells his name and history, and presently foretells the fate of the by-standers. Wherever there is power, there is age. Don’t be deceived by dimples and curls. I tell you that babe is a thousand years old. Time is indeed the theatre and seat of illusion: nothing is so ductile and elastic.” says Emerson, again in Old Age.

V. The Essence of Age

I dedicated this piece to my grandparents, true Elders by every meaningful measure. But my dedication would be incomplete if not extended to the wisdom of the young people - the many, many of you gentle readers - who teach me every day, who inspire me with your courageous acts, your clever expressions, and your will to continuance.

Especially in this time, but for a long time now (maybe for always) youth has been made suspect. While it is indeed raw, I have always felt that signals its proximity to the root.

I am young to be a coach, having begun this work at only 34 years old, mostly lacking in gray hair, though I have acquired more, and having been, at different times, by myself and the world, celebrated and refuted. But very slowly, and indeed variably, my forsakenness lifts to reveal, as Gerald Manley Hopkins wrote “a very, very violet sweet” God who has made me who I am. In these moments, I ask then who am I to deny perhaps not what I know, (because, really, who could possibly Know?) but at least what I sense, what I feel.

Elderhood, I am learning, is less a demographic and greater a state of fine organization, available at any age and perhaps all the more readily to the young.

Emerson describes the soul of a poet as “has come to ripeness of thought, she detaches and sends away from it its poems or songs —a fearless, sleepless, deathless progeny, which is not exposed to the accidents of the weary kingdom of time: a fearless, vivacious offspring, clad with wings (such was the virtue of the soul out of which they came) which carry them fast and far, and infix them irrecoverably into the hearts of men.” She who, much like a child, possesses a quality of existence outside of time, sits in the parlor of truth.

I would say that there exist a thousand unbreakable links between each of us and all existence, and that our dignity and our chances, young and old, are one. The farthest star and the reefs at the bottom of our oceans encircle us; a family. Fire, the wheel, the book, speech itself are our oldest and best technologies - nothing yet has superseded their utility; new things have only troubled our ability to see this.

The iatrogenics of the soul, the effects of over-invention and under-eldered witness: depression, isolation, autoimmune, etc. are feedback from disconnection.

Their medicine, offered to us through every ever baby born is touch, rhythm, crying, sharing, storytelling, wonder at nature, and sleep. Holding. And being held. These are, all at once, celebration and technology for the gift of existence.

Our future does not rest in the hands of the fastest or the most liked, who are rarely the oldest, or the youngest, but is perennially promised to any who remember how to keep time with what permits more life. In nature the universal hours are counted by succeeding tribes of animals and plants, and by growth of joy on joy, said Emerson in 1844. As true today as it ever was.

There is little new to be built, but many eyes to be brightened, and one thing to remember: we are each other’s destiny.

Marisa Leigh Valente 6/28/25 Marisa Leigh Valente 6/28/25

Mirth

If dignity is life’s native dress - the auric garment of self-respect and rooted in belonging - it is also the taproot of the great oak of reverence. Then irony, grief’s own disease, is the drought that cracks the soil; the snap that breaks branch from trunk of tree. Mirth is what lives beneath the shade and sway of the oak. Or what does not.

This is dedicated to

the skeleton of all life

cloaked by time

in story.

Ten Feet From Mirth

“For the first time in twenty-five years there is no small footstool next to the bed, on which to break one’s toes. The little dogs, first Jasper and then Bear, are gone. How neatening is loss, since it only takes away! One less mouth to feed, to walk, to bathe, to hold. One less sentient creature to cherish, to worry over, to feel for, to receive comfort from. And where is he, little Bear, the latest to leave us? We watch the white clouds carefully; sooner or later we will see him, sailing away in careless and beautiful serenity. Of what rich and ornate stuff the powerful and uncontainable gods invented the world, out of the rampant dust! The silky brant, the scarf of chiffon, the letter, the empty envelope, the black ducks, the old shoes, the little white dog fall away, fall away, and all the music of our lives is in them. The gods act as they act for what purpose we do not know, but this we do understand: the world could not be made without the swirl and whirlwind of our deepest attention and our cherishing. And if I mean the god of the sky, I mean also the god of the river -- not only the god of the gold-speckled cathedral but the lord of the green field, where people pause casually and snap each other’s pictures; where thrushes release their darkling songs; where little dogs bark and leap, their ears tossing, joyously, as they run toward us.” - Mary Oliver

This was Mary Oliver in Long Life, lain gracefully across the axis of love and loss.

“Bear is small and white with a curly tail. He was meant to be idle and pretty but learned instead to love the world,and to romp roughly with the big dogs. The brotherliness of the two, Ben and Bear, increases each year. They have their separate habits, their own favorite sleeping places, for example, yet each worries without letup if the other is missing. They both bark rapturously in support of each other. They both sneeze to express pleasure, and yawn in humorous admittance of embarrassment.

Some things are unchangeably wild, others are stolidly tame. The tiger is wild, and the coyote, and the owl. I am tame, you are tame. There are wild things that have been altered, but only into a semblance of tameness; it is no real change.”

And this was Mary Oliver, earlier in Long Life, playing intelligent witness to the truth of things closer to the earth than we.

Mary is an extoller of virtues many. Among them, she is the gifted artist of sight. And the joy such sight offers its practiced few - even in the dark - is virtue.

We live, you and I, about ten feet from mirth. When something delightful happens, that is more than the morning cup of coffee, but less than, maybe, the birth of a baby, which is unscripted and brings more than a smile but less than a laugh to our face, we feel fleet, my ears perk to yours, we offer thanks to a glint of falling light through our eyes.

We live, you and I, about ten feet from mirth.

Our culture, in just inside of a few decades, has trained us to convert every moment into points - content or critique and paid promotion. Like invisible ink, mirth is written, but illegible in this light. Mirth doesn’t announce itself, it doesn’t earn applause, cannot be scripted or captured in a jar like a lightning bug, nor does it serve a purpose much beyond itself.

Yet it is not naïve. Mirth is the opposite of sorrow. It is that which sorrow protects.

Mirth is the rapturous meadow, wild and untidy, so richly alive that we run through it on a blaze of desire, upon fleet feet, with throats open, arms in the air, squealing, with delight.

But when the meadow turns gray and thick with mist, we look out with wonder - we do not step in. “When will it lift?” we ask. Grief, heavy like the fog of forgotten dreams, lingers. It lies upon our bodies like a blanket - more cold than warm, and so enveloping still. Through time, we are delivered to a weighty other-world which becomes its own home. So we forget the meadow. And call ourselves unlucky.

But the sun does return. And one day, after many bright days beheld behind a window, we are lucky again. And we remember.

We remember that our instinct for pleasure is not unserious. That it is the kin of our belonging. That it is the sister of all true things and the mother of our dignity. A leap is not for spectacle or display - it is resonance. Like the squeal, it belongs to the body-family of joy.

When grief has been walked all the way home, we return to a pleasure-dome, and beat our winged feet against the dirt unfettering flight.

Mirth is what lives beneath the shade and sway of the oak in our meadow with a picnic basket and lemonade. Or what does not.

II. The Style of Our Story Through Time

”The best use of literature bends not toward the narrow and the absolute but to the extravagant and the possible. Answers are no part of it; rather, it is the opinions, the rhapsodic persuasions, the engrafted logics, the clues that are to the mind of the reader the possible keys to his own self-quarrels, his own predicament. This is the crux of Emerson, who does not advance straight ahead but wanders to all sides of an issue; who delivers suggestions with a kindly gesture - who opens doors and tells us to look at things for ourselves. The one thing he is adamant about is that we should look - we must look - for that is the liquor of life, that brooding upon issues, that attention to thought even as we weed the garden or milk the cow.”

This was Mary Oliver in Long Life, the good student of the great Emerson.

Narrative Wholeness

We are living through a scene on the great stage of human life where we are mourning our very own story. In this chapter, our plot has frayed, and without it, all sense of meaning is despaired of.

Open Curtain - Narrator Speaks: In the absence of a coherent, life-affirming and life-directing story, the collective unconscious has drifted toward narrative dystopia - not merely as despair, but as a sort of bleak dress rehearsal.

Its rehearsal is for how it grieves the loss of what it once held sacred - and how, in that grief, when it becomes lucky again - remember what permits it delightful flight. Leap!

Why Dystopia Dominates Now

The Mourning of Narrative Wholeness

The Collapse of Shared Meaning

We live today in a void of unifying cosmology: religion has splintered, governments have betrayed their honor, and the myth of progress rings increasingly hollow. The future, once imagined with awe, is now contacted with dread.

In the absence of a life-affirming story to hold us in common purpose, dystopia has become our grim and magnetic default - a scripture of the dark art that infects us with our own fears, sipped mistakenly as tonic, incarnating the very afflictions we long to cure.

It sounds like this:

“We have gone too far.”
“We cannot return.”
“Beauty is naïve.”
“Control is inevitable.”
“We are powerless.”
“Why bother?”

Death Drive as Entertainment - The Neuroscience of Dystopia

When overwhelmed with unprocessed grief, the psyche turns to reenactment, compulsively replaying what it does not have the fine motor ability to stop. This is the hippocampus dysregulated. This is PTSD.

The recent onslaught of dystopian films offer us the illusion of control: we watch our fears unfold from the safety of a soft seat, scripting the ending of ourselves to feel less helpless.

To pre-author our collapse feeds an illusion that such control will soften the blow of its arrival.

It is the opposite of creative vision.

This is trauma art at the scale of collective dream.

An Old Boundary - The Hays Code

To understand how we arrived in this era of collapse-as-entertainment - unmitigated, aestheticized, and oddly enchanting - it helps to look back to an old boundary: The Hays Code.

Officially known as the Motion Picture Production Code, The Hays Code was introduced in the 1930s as a self-governing moral framework for American cinema. Many find watching old movies truly relaxing in a manner that modern entertainment has never been. It’s no coincidence.

Old movies were, every one of them, held within warm cultural scaffold - defined by not only what could be shown on screen (sex, violence, crime, grief) - but how those arcs were directed to resolve. The Hays Code did not ban transgression but it did insist on its processing.

Every story, no matter how dark, was compelled to land. Structure was sanctified, as was the magnitude of consequence. Always and only, without surrender, there was preparation, departure, revelation, and return.

This era of cinema was crowned classic vis-á-vis the Hays Code because it functioned along a regulated collective amygdala-hippocampus axis.

Features of Collective Emotional Regulation

When a culture can hold grief, the purity of its memory pardons its impulse to replay it.
Memory, when sequenced with attunement, beauty and resolution, becomes rationality. It lives in the past, and in peace. This is the hippocampus in harmony with the amygdala. This is integration.
The films of the Hays Code era offered audiences not denial of its hardship, but its containment. Stories had to resolve, not to enforce moralism, but simply to conclude.
This was memory consolidation at scale: rupture followed by restitution; rift followed by repair.
Our nervous systems recognize this sequence, so they soften.
This era was not a dream, but a collective REM cycle rendered in celluloid.

When the Hays Code was dismantled in the late 1960s, it was replaced with the modern rating system and a new creative era blossomed.

Much was gained! Psychological nuance, narrative daring, and permission to touch the shadow came to light. But something slipped. Within the fold of the Hays Code lies the remains of a shared cosmology - our expectation that our stories, even hard ones, would cohere toward meaning in a wider moral arc which we endeavored to realize in our lives beyond the screen.

Bereft of our tether to probity, our stories drifted. Imperceptibly, we moved from vision to voyeurism, then from parable to simulation, and from heroic arc to psychic projection.

What This Suggests:

When the Hays Code was dismantled, it unlocked a treasury of psychic permission. We gained nuance, rawness, complexity - and the freedom to look unflinchingly at our collective shadow. But within that gain lay a forfeiture: our expectation that stories, however harrowing, would still bend toward coherence, providing a shared compass to re-enter the world with direction.

As the scaffold of a common cosmology fell away, so did our insistence that narrative deliver us to meaning. Story drifted from ceremony to commodity. We moved, almost imperceptibly, from witness to voyeur; from exorcism to exhibition; from revelation to endless, unconscious re-enactment.

What this suggests is not merely aesthetic. It is diagnostic:

Trauma decontextualized in a person may seem like personality.

Trauma decontextualized in a family may seem like tradition.

Trauma decontextualized in a civilization may seem like culture.

III. We Saw and We Believed

Offered below is an incomplete but illustrative constellation of how the braid of our mythos has loosened across decades.

These films mark turning points in our collective imagination: the shift from narrative wholeness to narrative grief, and from mythic reckoning to stylized despair.

❖ Foundational Dystopias (50+ years ago): Morality Tales in Allegory

These films warned rather than reenacted. They still reserved some measure of ethical compass, offering redemption, resistance, or moral tension.

• Metropolis (1927) — An early myth of class-based collapse with clear social warnings and a redemptive arc.

• Planet of the Apes (1968) — A cautionary twist: humanity as its own downfall, but still shaped around curiosity, awe, and consequence.

• Soylent Green (1973) — Dystopia rooted in overpopulation and resource depletion; grotesque, but tethered to social commentary.

❖ Cynical Tech and Moral Fog (20–40 years ago): Spectacle with a Thread of Despair

This era introduced ambiguity, glamorized violence, and began normalizing systemic collapse, while still revering character-driven stakes.

• Blade Runner (1982) — Haunting, aesthetic, ambiguous. A beautiful grief film disguised as cyberpunk.

• RoboCop (1987) — Brutality wrapped in satire, showing the corporatization of justice and body.

• The Matrix (1999) — A philosophical fable: freedom vs illusion. But still, the protagonist wakes up. The hero’s journey completes.

❖ The Turn of the Century (2000–2015): Aestheticized Collapse and Fragmented Morality

Dystopia becomes sleek, stylized, and intimate here. Redemption arcs remain, but erosion begins: the camera zooms on the wound more than its cure.

• Children of Men (2006) — Beauty and grief tightly braided. A rare film that shows dystopia as mourning, not just spectacle.

• The Hunger Games (2012–2015) — Gladiator dystopia for teenagers; trauma dressed as agency.

• Her (2013) — The loneliness of connection in a digitized world. Emotional displacement, narrated gently.

❖ Contemporary Collapse (2015–Present): No Exit, No Hero, No Hope

Now, dystopia is the baseline. Not warning, but standard. Films no longer argue whether collapse is coming, they offer a particular flavor of its pain. And there are many.

• Black Mirror (TV, 2011–2019) — Psychological violation as entertainment. No repair. No redemption.

• Joker (2019) — A portrait of collapse from within. Trauma as character. The arc is a descent.

• The Menu (2022) — Post-elite nihilism; satire turned spiritual starvation.

• Don’t Look Up (2021) — Satire of a dying planet, stripped of myth or meaning, only absurdity.

• The Creator (2023) — High-budget spectacle, techno-human grief with less philosophy, more aesthetic lament.

• Poor Things (2023) — Hays Code annihilation. Sex, autonomy, grotesque reclamation—but no grounding. We watch with no compass.

• Civil War (2024) — Aestheticized chaos, no catharsis, no moral stakes. Only bodies in motion and camera in hand.

• 2073 (2024) — A hybrid docu-drama that functions as a future warning. Surveillance, authoritarianism, climate collapse all looped together—no narrative rescue offered.

• Ash (2025) — Psychedelic sci-fi horror aboard a station of neurosis and amnesia; paranoia without redemption.

• The Blue Trail (2025) — Dystopia through displacement: eldering in isolation, only brittle hope in the Amazonian wilderness.

What This Suggests:

Each step forward was a loosening - not only of censorship, but of cultural lucidity. Film once served the priestly roles of parable and exorcism. Now they reenact collapse without resolution. Trauma becomes unmitigated, unintegrated aesthetic for sale.

We used to watch ourselves learn.

Today we watch ourselves unravel.

Perfect Days

“The problem is, one wants, both in life and in writing, a story. And the ferocious weathers are the perfect foundation; in all tempests we must do something. We must get somewhere - and so the story begins. Truly, the heart delights in it. Adversity, even tragedy, is cathartic, and a teacher. Challenge and personal valor are admired by us all. On the windless days, when the maples have put forth their deep canopies, and the sky is wearing its new blue immensities, and the wind has dusted itself not an hour ago in some spicy field and hardly touches us as it passes by, what is it we do? We lie down and rest upon the generous earth. Very likely we fall asleep.” - MaryOliver

This was Mary Oliver in Long Life in a chapter titled The Perfect Days.

What we consume as collapse is cinematic excess born of the boredom of numbness to need.

It is the fussy child not yet able to articulate its needs and has them anyway. We find ourselves, too, fussing inarticulately. In hunger. For narrative.

But no myth emerges without descent. And no descent resolves without grieving what came before it.

❖What Constitutes a Whole Narrative?

A narrative may be called whole when it fulfills three essential functions:

It grants ontological security, offering a sense of who we are, why we are here, and how we are meant to live.
It carries mythic depth, ethical coherence, and aesthetic continuity, so that life feels not only explicable, but beautiful.
It harmonizes the personal with the universal, uniting self, society, nature, and the sacred in chorus.

Narrative wholeness is atmospheric before it is conceptual.

Its sensate physicality scents the day. It is the air first. Then it is the architecture it breathes in, the rituals it keeps, and the songs it sings at cradle and grave.

All earlier epochs held continuous that story was not entertainment; it was entirely the edifice of existence.

❖Examples of (Relative) Wholeness:

Indigenous cosmologies prior to colonial disruption include pre-contact Polynesia, the pre-Columbian Andes, and pre-Enclosure Europe. Here, land, language, ancestry, and cosmos were the organizing principles around which all life revolved.
In Ancient Egypt, story, ritual, architecture, governance, and cosmology formed a single system where each pillar reinforced the others.
Classical Vedic India, pre-Socratic Greece, and periods of medieval Christendom (especially where monastic tradition met seasonal, pagan sun-worship), all reflected narrative consistency, though imperfectly. A shared grammar of meaning, moral instruction, and metaphysical wonder remains to this day, evident in their architecture, literature, ritual food, clothing, and song which we still travel to experience. This fashionable and unanimous impulse preserves two truths: it does not exist where we live and we recognize it as home.

These civilizations were not utopias. But the stories they lived within were total without being totalitarian.

They succeeded offering form to a multi-modal truth - grief and beauty, sacrifice and joy, the cycles of death and rebirth - are all part of a sweet pie from which we delight to taste and which no sensation it offers need be exiled.

As this was done at scale, each individual human life was nourished by its cohesion as derivative.

❖When Did the Collapse Begin?

Our great narratives did not vanish beneath the pull a single tide. They eroded in waves, each stroking the architecture of meaning, until solid rock became sand shed through fingers.

1492–1700s: The Colonial Rupture

Land, labor, and language were drawn from their native soils and repurposed for empire.
A European worldview - rational, hierarchical, and extractive - was carried to sea by ships, scripture, spice and gunpowder.
Indigenous, place-bound cosmologies and non-verbal ritual were displaced by foreign maps and grammar bereft of form for nothing but the ineffable.

1750–1850: The Industrial & Enlightened Age of Severance

Myth was slowly divorced from fact; and spirit, once grafted to nature, was cast into the margins of science and semantics.
Forests became timber. Time was clocked. Labor slipped from artistry to wage.
The cosmos, once a living animacy, became a control mechanism absorbed by and partisan to religion.

1914–1945: The Age of Machine Death

The World Wars gave violence tools beyond human scale, making mortality impersonal.
“God is dead,” wrote Nietzsche, capturing not just a loss of faith, but a shift in the axis of meaning itself.
The bright light of progress flickered, as its long shadow came newly into view.

1960s–1980s to Today: The Postmodern Fracture

Overarching truths were declared suspect as concord gave way to critique as currency.
Symbols loosened from their mooring unable to anchor truth as sole dispositor. Meaning became fluid, and often fleeting.
From the gap grew magnetizing consumerism, offering identity through transaction rather than belonging.

What This Suggests:

We did not fall so much as drift - and drifting is its own gentle peril. In the drift, we forgot to notice the slow hollowing of our collective life, mistaking distraction for nourishment and novelty for renewal. We forgot our hunger while our need for true sustenance deepened. What this suggests is that collapse rarely arrives as a thunderclap; it slips in like a tide, eroding meaning grain by grain until we no longer remember the difference between a sandy shore and a paved parking lot. It reminds us that a people can survive famine more honestly than they can survive a feast of emptiness, and that to drift unmoored is often more dangerous than to fall outright - for hunger unnamed will always find other ways to feed.

We did not fall so much as drift. In the drift, we forgot our hunger while our need for sustenance deepened.

Constitutional Paradise

“But even paradise must have rules. I do not know whether or not these rules were engendered in the beginning by divine deftness or by chance. I rather think chance was the origin - though perhaps the chance was offered divinely - for the rules are neither nice nor neat; simply workable, and therefore, in the quest for life rather than no-life, sublime. Every vitality must have a mechanism that recommends it to existence - what seems like ornamentation or phantasm is pure utility. It comes from an engine of mist and electricity that may be playful, and must be assertive. And also, against the odds of endurance in the great-shouldered sea, prolific.” -Mary Oliver

This was Mary Oliver, in Long Life, exploring flow.

❖The Peak and The Valley

In our lived lives, two singular events turned the wheel lock on the canal bridging narrative coherence to fragmentation. These events formed the pole tethering each end of a quivering flag waving out the world we once inhabited and staking the interregnum within we now stretch.

The Moon Landing (1969): A Planetary Halo

Joy reveals its quality in how deftly it expands not only ourselves, but also those beside us. When a whole world looked skyward and saw itself in the shimmer of a bootprint on lunar dust through a television screen, a species were refracted in glittering transparent light.

What would the world be like if we never had this moment?

It was more than science and more than American. And it dutifully adhered to the ancient arc: preparation, departure, revelation, and return.

Apollo 11 carried the glare of imagination and faith in shared endeavor on a golden chariot beyond the blue earth into black space enchanting the planet to which its likeness was beamed back.

It was the last moment in history the entire world breathed in - through screens, yes, but devoid of irony - in perspicacious wonder.

We saw and we believed.

September 11th (2001): The Valley of the Shadow

Terror reveals its magnitude in how swiftly it paralyzes not only our bodies, but our bonds. The voltage of lunar wonder short circuited into scream and rupture on September 11th, plunging us down into an underworld beyond old dreams where the sky now betrayed our trust.

Fallen with the towers was safe exceptionalism - that one land conveyed enchanted exponential possibility while the idle doomed play out all the wars of time. A myth born of oceans, borders, and distance shattered one fine morning in fire, ash, falling bodies and plate glass.

A fracture at the scale of the moon landing’s unity, with all explanation despaired of, yielded grief compounded by fear seizing the plot of manifest dreams.

The paralysis of ideology, suspicion, and surveillance, shown through the very screens that once saw us touch the divine, now transmits trauma on loop by instant replay.

We saw and we believed.

What This Suggests:

The peak and the valley reveal that what we see - and how we see - are the instruments through which we cohere or fracture.

We gathered around the moon and made a mirror of our collective ascent.
We fell through the towers and made them a sinkhole of our collective dread.

In both moments, our screens served as the membrane of a global body - first made visible in awe, then perforated by fear.

What this suggests is that our mechanism is as fragile as it is necessary: wonder is a bond that must be tended, or else a lens bearing testimony to enchantment may also become a loop that ensnares us in our own terror-vision. Perhaps our species is being taught to choose - again and again - whether to bind our seeing to the engine of wonder or to the engine of collapse? In all cases, the structure proves itself alive, for it grows.

Paradise is never lawless; every vitality must bind itself to an order that advances its existence. A species, too, obeys this principle.

IV. DAWN’S DARK DRESS

“There is a rumor of total welcome among the fronts of the winter morning. Beauty has its purposes, which, all our lives at every season, it is our opportunity, and our joy, to divine. Nothing outside ourselves makes us desire to do so; the questions, and the striving toward answers, come from within. The field I am looking at is perhaps twenty acres altogether, long and broad. The sun has not yet risen but is sending its first showers over the mountains. A kind of rehearsal, a slant light with even a golden cast. I do not exaggerate. The light touches every blade of frozen grass, which then burns as a particular as well as part of the general view. The still upright weeds have become wands, encased in a temporary shirt of ice and light. Neither does this first light miss the opportunity of the small pond, or the grounds of pine trees. And now: enough of silver, behold the pink, even a vague, unsurpassable flush of pale green.” - Mary Oliver

This is Mary Oliver, in Long Life, at dawn worship, for which she was known.

While the drama of the tempest sends our hearts aflutter again and again, still they know to honor the relief of peace.

How do we return to the glory of the moon landing, we wonder? There is a way. The path is grief.

Critique is high music - it has a beat. But grief is low and slow - its sound is not and no less music. It asks something more enduring than opinion - it bids our surrender.

Our contemporary tick is fluent in deconstruction. We know how to name the systems that failed us, and how to condemn the traitors.

But we are unpracticed in the descent down the circular stairs of sorrow where their shattered hearts lay in wait of liberation. So, without the skill of descent, we struggle to rise with anything to hold.

Grief is not a backward glance; it is a rite. And like all rites, it must be earned. It is an alchemy that transforms the ash of regret into lush ground.

But alchemy demands time, ceremony, and companionship. It is the morning silver which without warning beholds the flush of color returned again to our crown.

What We’ve Lost Without Grief:

Our past has been either glorified or condemned, but it is has rarely been consolidated. Because we have forgotten how.
Sorrow, when unwelcomed, hardens. Its patina glitters with irony, which deflects - fracture writ large - and descends into a spectacle of performance instead of the glow of truth.
In the absence of welcome into the lap of an attuned other, the sorrow of the psyche, much like a child in tantrum, projects it’s pain outward not as provocation but as plea.

It becomes cynicism, numbness, and burnout. It becomes the flat affect of a soul too long without flight.

And without metabolizing what was lost, the keys to the door of promised paradise are withheld. Not because we are unworthy, but because we have not yet done the work necessary to bear its weight.

Our work is to remember.

Our work is to remember that every crying child, no matter how wild, longs only to be gathered, and that all is not lost if even one of us can open arms and rock chaos gently to peace.

To pass through grief is to be taken by a current and humbled by it.

We are carried and tumbled.

Worn down we are delivered, entirely whole, home to a new and wider shore.

To pass through grief is compulsory but not involuntary.
It asks things of us.
And we must choose to answer.

What Grief Requires - Four Acts of Restoration:

• To honor its name, we must confess our love for what we lost.

To grieve is first to remember, with all of our affection. Even imperfect structures once held beauty. Reverence is not regression; it is the soul’s way of honoring what mattered - what was ballast to tender existence.

• To live beyond betrayal, we must cut the thorn from our chest, and tend the hollow space.

Forgiveness is not forgetting. It is releasing the tether binding our identity to the wound. Forgiveness is not the gallantry of excuse, but the knight of freedom delivering victimhood to triumph through the brush of time.

• To redeem reverence, we must emerge bare-faced and still risk being seen.

To begin again with sincerity is a radical act. Iron-y is a silver shield protecting us from disappointment. But a shield does not discriminate. It blocks everything good, too. The work of grief opens us only to truth. It invites us to honor its gravity or to deaden ourselves to it. We must choose. The gift is that we can.

• To be held again, we must be willing to drink from a shared cup.

Grief is unendurable alone. Its thirst is quenched in the company of truly tender presence. Restoration is not a solo performance - its purpose is to return us to the circle where the soul remembers the reality of its belonging.

V. Belonging

Each loss we endure deepens the channel through which the tide of life swims. As we learn to befriend sorrow and yield to its gravity, we grow more spacious in our ability to bear, what I feel, is a floating grace.

It is only if we refuse to stand in the presence of sorrow that it slips beneath us, pulling us down like an undertow, drowning us by force to that which we refuse to yield.

How do we sift through the shards of a broken culture, of fragmented psyches, and find our way back to what Francis Weller calls “our original undividedness and the freedom it bestows, right there in the suffocating fear itself”?

Wendell Berry names the road: “It all turns on affection,” he says.

So after a long exile, we are returned to the sky of mirth.

How we nourish this tendency toward ascent may be the most noble work of all long lives.

It is one unbroken act of remembering, gathering ourselves, again and again, into the truth of things as they are. And once we have gathered ourselves, the act of gathering the one beside us.

We rescue from treason the downcast one - the orphaned, the castaway brother or sister - to frame a hero not at war but after - and not exalted, only smiling at rest, in his meadow with company.

He pours lemonade into a glass lifted from its neighborhood in a lucky basket. It winks in the light. And it is filled with ice. In the canopy of the great oak, he sees his own open hand reflected.

He will weave no longer a spotted life of shred and patches, but he will live with a divine unity.
He will cease from what is base and frivolous in his life and be content with all places and with any service he can render. He will calmly front the morrow in the negligency of that trust which carries God with it and so hath already the whole future in the bottom of his heart.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Resonance

Sound that loses its elegance loses its significance. Yet it is no simple matter for the willing heart to well and truly feel and permit it clean motion through a body just because it is the human imperative to do so.

Sound that loses its elegance loses its significance. Yet it is no simple matter for the willing heart to well and truly feel and permit it clean motion through a body just because it is a human imperative to do so.

I am a soundmaker - a professional one - for the voice of a coach is her only true instrument. You are a soundmaker too! And while we smile and speak as vigorously today as any ever have, our sounds are not as they once were (said my heart even before my ears).

I have hesitated to say so, but perhaps we carry each a small leaf in our good white teeth - a remnant of what was once nourishment is now mud. Our bright smiles, I think, are in need of gentle polish.

The trick of the great soundmakers of the 1960s and 1970s - the musical ones - in no pornographic sense - was to connect their pelvis with the striking chorded throat, making the matter of their golden groove sound-that-(literally)-conceived-our-lives conceptual, invisible, and more than a glimmer of rhythm, but a measurable sharpness inside the heart, conducted from foot to crown. Dance!

Artists of this golden moment carried raw emotional circuitry that had both recovered from and not yet been severed again by collective trauma.

Bad Company → masculine ache without defense
Bob Dylan → raw poetic prophecy voiced through human imperfection devoid of artifice and anchored in grit
Fleetwood Mac → relational chaos lived out through melody, not suppressed under performance
Ambrosia, Foreigner, Journey → men pleading without shame
Bob Seger → memory, loss, embodied longing spoken in a man’s voice without apology
The Doors → unapologetic masculine eros braided to mysticism (especially “L.A. Woman”)
Sam Cooke, Percy Sledge, Aretha Franklin, The Righteous Brothers → the deep gospel of love as vocation, not trophy or transaction
Van Morrison → surrender of masculine form into spirit without abandoning flesh; an unbroken braid of longing, devotion, earthy sensuality, and cosmic ascent, sung not to impress but to dissolve boundary between body and light

We have Taylor Swift.

Hark, hope! We have lost this before. And have burst forth, forming not rational word but song drenched in passion and untranslatable. I thought to look at the history and considered you might like to share the walk.

1. Post-War Release + the Somatic Thaw

• The years following World War II initiated a massive nervous system exhale.

→ After global trauma, the collective field began slowly returning to the body.
→ Men returned from war to rebuild - not just cities, but also cradles.

• In the 1950s, eros was still coded in structure (courtship, slow dances, devotion), but it was contained - reaching toward but inaccessible to full spectrum throated voltage.

→ This containment acted like a pressure chamber - a thin but thickening polarity braid.

→ The body remembered what it was to wait, to want, to move slowly.

That waiting created tension.
And that tension became sound.

2. Emergence of Black musical genius as national force

• Motown, soul, gospel, and blues were not entertainment - they were field repair.
→ This resonance carried the sacred wisdom of the race’s centuries old fluency in suppression, grief, praise, longing, erotic ache, and primal sound-memory.
→ When these voices - Aretha, Marvin, Otis, Smokey, Sam - entered the mainstream, they re-widened the entire cultural throat.

→ Suddenly, desire could wail.
→ Grief could groove.
→ Love could shimmer as truth relieved of its shame.

• White performers began to entrain - not mimic, but co-resonate.
And the field widened into creamy harmonic plait gold.

3. Pre-synthetic recording technology: high fidelity analog

• Magnetic tape, reel-to-reel, vacuum tubes, live instrumentation
→ All preserved the grit of human breath.
→ You can hear the strain, the break, the unscripted inhale.

This technology allowed soul to remain intact as signal.
The throat and pelvis were touching now in vibrationally undistorted harmonic rhythm.

4. Sexuality was still ritual, neither reaction, nor transaction

• The sexual revolution hadn’t yet commodified eros.
→ Eroticism still lived inside slowness, risk, grief and prayer.
→ It was subtextual but felt fully.

This sacred containment created a voltage build-up that poured itself into song, gaze, lyric, and movement.

→ Before 1965, the culture was still bracing - but the inner ache was clean.

By 1965, the ache had ripened into release.

And the sound reflected it.

So, 1965–1983 was not a miracle.

It was a convergence.
A moment when:

The post-trauma exhale met sacred eros.
Technology held the integrity of breath.
Sacred Black soul power infused mainstream white culture.
The body and voice trusted each other again.
And love had not yet been collapsed by irony or performance.

Emerson said, “Prayer is the contemplation of the facts of life from the highest point of view.”

In a single sentence, he collapsed an elite mystical practice into tactility of gentle and imponderable function. If music is to cultural prayer as conversation to elegant skiff rowed across lap of lake, then soundmakers of the 1960s and 1970s wove with golden thread ocean of feeling - a real-time auditory architecture of collective breath that held love, sorrow, hope, sensuality, and eros in elegant lace.

The sounds of these prayers were then and remain today a pleasure to the ear, and thus a tonic to the heart, at the same time they strike the mind, and the listener’s own impetus, given such a bright shove, is freed of hesitation to take flight.

Where Are We Now? The Collapse of Resonance

Why So Many Americans Have Light (or Compressed) Voices

For Men

1. Cultural feminization without maturation: The backlash against toxic masculinity has unhappily conflated aggression with strength, and so our dear and necessary men are now socially trained to soften - not into true grace, but into closeted submission. The result? A collapse in vocal weight, projection, and sovereign placement.

2. Techno-linguistic flattening: Screens, remote work, and low-stakes
communication (text, email, social media) diminish the need for embodied voice. Men no longer speak from the body - they narrate from the neck. The voice becomes thin because the root is disinclined.

3. Loss of initiation: In traditional societies, young men pass through rites that anchor them in their bodies and responsibilities. With the rise in “freedom,” came the loss of rite, leaving an entire gender chronically ungrounded. An ungrounded man cannot speak from his diaphragm. His voice floats - unclaimed, unaimed, unsure and in perpetual regret of perversion he cannot name.

For Women

1. Bracing in the field: Many women are holding the masculine pole in their households, work environments, and relationships. Their voice follows. It deepens, sharpens, tightens. Feminine lilt collapses under the weight of structural responsibility.

2. Disembodiment as armor: Girls are taught that vocal softness can be read as weakness. So they flatten their tone, raise the pitch without air, or clip the ends of their words to signal detachment. This is not deference. It’s defense.

3. Mimetic mirroring: As men become less grounded, women unconsciously mirror the void. Instead of softening into deeper receptivity, most women overcompensate - filling the sonic space with assertion instead of attraction.

Certainly one could belt out the longing of Bad Company with less - yet magnificent, elegiac, and deeply feeling - scratch. But the scar tissue in Paul Rodgers throat reveals one of the most poetic vocal stylings of the time in raw declarative vibratory truth.

Joe Cocker’s throaty scrape is a painting and written for the long and searching look one seeks when held-ness is in order. “A Little Help from My Friends” is the sonic lap of a capable ship’s captain, the song offering his meaning slowly, and as the seconds turn, the light changes and the mind begins to entrain in a kind of largo of sympathy and great relief.

How Did We Lose This?

After 1983, two principal fractures occurred:

The AIDS epidemic introduced field-wide terror around the erotic body, touch, and mortality.

→ The pelvic field - the seat of erotic innocence and gravity - closed.

→ Love and sex became suspicious, tragic, and defensive.

→ The throat grieved the expression.

The rise of hyper-commercialized, studio-perfect pop reflected flattened enculturated emotional authenticity into performative, safe accessibility.

→ Authentic throat-pelvis resonance was replaced with airbrushed, de-eroticized sound.

So, what we sense but can’t name about these late golden sounds:

The “music” was never just music.
When it broke, so did our cultural ability to channel full-bodied, unapologetic life force in public,
or anywhere.

Fortunately, We Are Emerging into the Reconstitution of that Fractured Field

The slow, sacred, and worthy process of grafting again voice to body, longing to loyalty, and presence and pleasure into single current is the work of our time, and enfolds the matter and true art of real conversation.

The AI & social media equivalent of flattened pop sound:

It is the hyper-optimized, de-souled “content generation” model - that frictionless, instantaneous production of language, image, and sound without field resonance, without sacrifice, and without lived experience that loses entirely the transmission. Vibration without resonance is akin to language without elegance, and launches by gasp the impulse toward the great Search.

It is speed without scar.

It is knowledge without initiation.

It is voice without breath.

This version of technology does what late-stage 1980s synth pop did: it preserves the outer shape of communication but strips it of embodied voltage.

It mimics beauty.

It repeats brilliance.

But it does not cost anything to generate,

so can only transmit noise.

Today we are reweaving not by rejection - but transmutation - the flattened texture of our technological world. Just as scar tissue marks the body’s return to vitality, the smooth, frictionless perfection of AI-generated language, image, and sound is paradoxically guiding us home.

Its sterility reveals what we have forfeited in pursuit of unlimited expression, mirroring back to us a performative inauthenticity drained of everything that makes it - that word again matter.

So we respond, not by replicating this flatness, but by re-entering our deep, instinctual body pelvis first, reclaiming our gravity and its tether to the earth and each other with erotic innocence, then the heart - reopening its vulnerable chambers to courage and ache, and finally the throat, where the force of our humanity can once again strike chords with weight.

First, resonance must be earned - through friction, wonder, discipline, devotion - the stuff of the dirt; life itself. Just as the actual house of our home is not of beam and nail but of all existence - is earth, with no door, no address separate from ocean or star, or from pleasure or wretchedness either, or hope or weakness, or any virtue worthy of our leggy, certain stride.

A Map - Analog Fidelity of the Voice

• Re-temple the Throat + Diaphragm:

→ Speak only from frequencies anchored in the pelvis.

→ Refuse to generate sound out of survival, defense, or abstraction.

→ Carry the weight of breath, blood, and belonging in every word, and on purpose.

• Re-wild the Body:

→ Reclaim eros as field resonance, neither transaction nor weapon, but harmony.

→ Move, sing, cry, and touch without narrativizing or performing intellect.

→ Allow the pelvis to govern pace, let the body set pitch; neither brain, nor mind. Sensate instruction creates rhythm not riot.

• Re-sanctify Longing:

→ Hold longing as the voltage of life, not a flaw to be fixed but instead conducted.

→ Graft longing to loyalty - desire without collapse, ache without betrayal - expecting it will create something greater than its own pain. Ache being a means not an end, assures the end will justify the means entirely to the extent it is endured as beauty, and with reverence.

→ Remember: longing, when anchored, becomes resonance - it braids throat to root, thus heaven to earth.

When we re-temple the voice, re-wild the body, and re-sanctify longing,
we do not simply heal ourselves - we rebuild the field through which all human love, loyalty, and creativity can live again. Herein lies the innovation we seek, that which sanctifies our hardy, gritty human struggle.

In sum:

The distortion:

Frictionless sound marks the death of the scar at the cost of the soul.

The redemption:

Throat as the midwife of expression is the exhale that says: “I lived this, and I offer it to you as song.”

How wonderful that the universe is beautiful in so many places and in so many ways and with so much music. But also our world is brisk and businesslike, and no doubt does not offer its delicate landscapes or thunderous power-peaks, and perhaps its perception, too, for our sake, or even for our improvement.

Nevertheless its intonations are our heart’s tonic if we take them.

For the world is full of radiant suggestion. And with mysterious reason, our hearts cannot separate the world’s appearance and actions for morality and valor, but the power of every idea is intensified, if not actually created, by its expression in resonance.